The Biblical ManThursday, October 8, 2026· 2 min read

Why the reading order matters when someone you love dies

I still haven’t learned my lesson, according to some trolls.

Why the reading order matters when someone you love dies

I still haven’t learned my lesson, according to some trolls. I am still writing guides and help. This one is free; it was inspired by the tragedy going on in my own community. And grief in general.

When someone dies, most people get a sympathy card with a verse on it.

Then life moves on; the workday starts, and everybody goes back to work. And you’re left with a Bible on the nightstand and no idea where to open it.

Here’s where. One chapter a night is plenty.

Learn That Grief Is Not Unbelief

Start with John 11. Jesus was on His way to raise Lazarus from the dead. He knew it. And on the way to the grave, “Jesus wept.”

If tears meant weak faith, the Son of God would have skipped them.

Then read these in order:

Job 1 and 2 (ten children dead in one day, and a man face down on the ground worshipping in a torn mantle)

Ruth 1 (a widow who lost her husband and both sons, then told the whole city to stop calling her Naomi)

2 Samuel 12 (a father fasting on the ground until the seventh day, then getting up to wash and eat)

2 Samuel 18 (a king weeping over the son who turned on him)

Lamentations 3 (a man who says God brought him into darkness, and in the same chapter says His compassions are new every morning)

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Psalms 42, 56, and 88.

Tears for food day and night. A man asking God to put his tears in His bottle. A psalm that ends in darkness with no bow on it, and God kept it in the Book anyway.

This is where you learn you’re allowed to tell God the truth. Even the ugly part.

Learn What Comes Next

John 20 (Mary Magdalene crying outside an empty tomb, until the One she’s crying over says her name)

1 Corinthians 15 (the resurrection chapter, where death gets asked where its sting went)

Revelation 21 (no more death, no more crying, and God Himself wiping away the tears)

These chapters won’t rush you.

They teach you:

Jesus cried on the way to a grave

Faith and tears live in the same house

You can get up and eat again without forgetting them

You can ask God why. Out loud.

The grave doesn’t get the last word

Most grief advice wants you over it by spring.

God didn’t answer Job until chapter 38.

Grief isn’t proof your faith failed.

It’s proof you loved somebody.

Save this. Somebody you know is going to need it.

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